Thank you for sharing your story and the link to Memsta. We didn’t set up an online memorial for my mother. We did do one for my younger sister. It’s at:

Online Memorial Honoring Mary Cooper at Never-Gone.com

I didn’t care for their interface, but it was what I could find. I may play with Memsta and see if I want to create a second one there.

I totally understand the desire to avoid pictures and thoughts of those who have died before us. I agree that it is better to use those memories to help ourselves and others heal. Sometimes, seeing my mom and my sister in pictures is hard even now. When that pain comes, I try to remember the good in both of them.